Disclaimer: I am not an expert in heartbreak

Hey! So, the other day I read through some of my older posts and realised that a lot of them are about my ex (too many of them)- that was by no means my intention but it just so happens that a lot of what I want to say and a great deal of what I have learnt recently is because of that break up, I thought I should clarify that. I think it's wrong of people to say you shouldn't post about a certain topic.. Who are you to tell me what I can and can't publish? If it helps me then who are you to tell me to stop doing that? And now, amazingly, not only is it helping me but other people too. It's like if I was to post a picture of myself naked (besides the fact I wouldn't do that.. TT's on Tumblr don't count..), say, because I was having a "good body day", should people not see that and think "good on you!" (okay, admittedly at first you'd be like, what.. but you have to commend them on their bravery) because even if it seems effortless for them to do, a part of them, no matter how big or small, would have thought otherwise about publishing it for fear of what people think but how is that any way to live? I'm not going to pretend some guy didn't break my heart just because some people clearly choose to be blind to the harsh reality that people have feelings (shock, right?).

I feel like sometimes my way of writing is to completely avoid the point to then get to the point and I guess I should probably try and stop that if I want to get anywhere with this whole Journalism malarkey (although I don't actually want to be a Journalist- one of my old lecturers would be so pissed off at that comment. Soz Angela, you look like Quozimodo, whatever). So here I am, doing it again. Recently a couple of people I know have been going through a break up so I guess this post is to try and help them with what has helped me. I'm making out as though I'm some sort of expert in heart break- should point out here my heart is in one piece, it's okay guys, false alarm. Anyway, I used to find myself thinking "maybe I'll wake up to a message from him and he'll realise he's made a mistake and he wants me back and he's going to work at it, put all this behind us because it's worth it", I mean, truthfully I think that thinking like that really helped me at first because it gave me a false sense of security. But honestly, you can't wait around for that day to come not knowing if it ever will because if there's one thing I've learnt it's that life goes on. It just carries on regardless. It's kind of heartless in that sense, it couldn't give a shit if you're pining over a guy, grieving, dying or even living. You can't touch yesterday so why let it touch you?

So on a lighter note, I recently asked some people what they would tell their younger selves if given the opportunity and this is what they said:

"You're only young once, do what you want to do and not what other people want you to do. Life goes by sooooo fast, DO WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY and be happy"

"Very often it's the things that you're most hesitant to do that turn out to be the things that are so worth it in the end"

"Listen to others and don't think you know it all. Work hard and save money, I used to waste it and think that I had plenty of time to save. Time soon goes"

"He doesn't love you and you will be okay"

"Let the hate out of your heart because it will only slow you down"

You only get one life and it's all yours, isn't that something to be happy about? Everything is temporary, folks x